Being a Loving Parent

One thing that I have been noticing lately is how so many young parents out there think that parenting is all about control. It's like they view their children as naturally wanting to be controling and manipulative. Because children are coming into this world with greater knowledge of their worth and purpose, sometimes they are seen as headstrong and stubborn.


What I invite parents to see is who their children really are and what they are trying to teach us.

What is your children trying say to you? Do you take the time to really listen?

I just got done watching a video of a young 3-year-old trying to voice her fears.
All the time in the background I heard the mother dismissing everything said.

What is the message this little girl is getting?

Could it be: "What you are feeling doesn't matter"

What do you truly want to have the children of today know?
I believe the best gift we can give our children is acceptance and love. This comes when we are truly willing to listen to them and hear what they are feeling. It is realizing that there is worth in the things that they natural know about themselves. As we truly watch a child, we can notice that they are born with a mind that sees things in a whole new way.

Take the time to Listen and Learn.

"And a little child shall teach them".

The Light

Last night I had the opportunity to be a part of a support group.

We all had one thing in common. We had all lost a good friend and were grieving.

Last night I learned so much about the grieving process as Gary Acevedo, the facilitator, talked about his experience with grief. What he had noticed is that if we truly allow ourselves to grief there is an amazing gift at the end of the tunnel. Yet it is only as we allow ourselves to experience the "hell" of truly missing someone with all its emotions that we can reach that gift.

Gary shared that the first almost automatic response to grief is "what could I have done to have stopped this from happening". He compared it to a child experiencing divorce. He pointed out that it is our defenses kicking in. For if we take the blame for the problem. We can also fix the problem. I found myself going into "if only I had been there". It felt like a black hole with no way of getting out.


Blame serves nobody. All it does is take us to a place that we can't even see the possibility of light. What we did next was share in small groups commitments we were making because of the lessons that this had taught us. I noticed as the room became lighter (both in mood and in us connecting with the source of all light). One of the commitment that I made was to always honor that light within me and other.

We are heading into an era of darkness and despair for some. As I see it we have three choices:

1. Surrender to the darkness and have a pity party about life.

2. Surround ourselves with optimistic people that see endless possibilities.

3. Be the Light people are looking for. Discover ways to let your light shine.


It has been my experience that as I choice to Be the Light, I attract people willing to see the end of the tunnel and also choice to Be the Light. So that when my light starts to flicker I had someone their to get it shining once again.